Friday, October 12, 2007

The heart of the matter :Bible Studies


enough to think rightly; we also must act rightly. The kingdom of God is about more than following a set of rules or agreeing with a certain set of principles; it is about living as a citizen of God's kingdom in this world.



The implication of Jesus' teaching in this section is that his followers will live differently than the rest of the world. The six examples in this section give concrete form to being salt and light and having a greater righteousness than the Pharisees and the teachers of the law.


Jesus' model in his teaching is to call attention to the Old Testament teaching. All of his followers there would have had at least a passing understanding with each of these teachings. Jesus then calls his disciples to an even higher standard than the law did.



This is the place where we usually get hung up. It is apparent to anyone who reads the Old Testament that Israel, and the rest of the world which they represented, was by no means capable of maintaining even the original standards of the law.



How in the world are we supposed to live up to this higher standard? This is precisely the problem that has caused us to skip over the Sermon on the Mount, or to view it as an ethic for a different time. I hope that by looking at each section, we can see Jesus did not give us an unrealistic standard to live up to but taught us how to begin to live to that standard.



We might best title Matthew 5:21-26, "Dealing with Anger." Jesus starts by saying, "You have heard it said, … 'Do not murder,'" but Jesus goes further by getting to the root cause of murder, "But I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother is subject to judgment."



First, Jesus in no way says a Christian should never be angry. In order for us to never be angry, we must be apathetic; it means that we don't care. When something that we value is hurt or in some way diminished, it causes us to be angry. When someone, or something, causes our family to hurt, we are angry. Anger comes because we care deeply about someone or something. That is the reason church fights are the worst. We care about the church, we love the church and that is true of both sides. What Jesus does here is tell us how to be delivered from that anger and live together as brothers and sisters in Christ. In short, Jesus tells us how to keep our anger from causing us to sin.



In Kingdom Ethics, Glen Stassen and David Gushee call Jesus' teaching "transforming initiatives." Jesus does not give us a command without telling us how to fulfill it. Jesus gives us a specific way to deal with our anger, to keep it from getting out of hand and leading us to sin. Jesus says if there is a brother who has something against us, we are to go and be reconciled. We are to take the initiative in making the relationship right. Jesus moves us from allowing anger to take over our lives to living in grace and restoration.



It should not surprise us that this is the method Jesus prescribes for us. It is exactly what God has done for us. Romans 5:8 says: "But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us." God does not allow his anger to go unchecked but gives us every opportunity for reconciliation. He calls for us to do the same. Jesus does not ask us to do what he has not already done, and in doing so, sets the example for us.



Matthew 5:27-30 deals specifically with sexual lust. It follows the same pattern as the previous section. Jesus reminds them of the standard, sets it higher and then tells us how to live it out. Once again, Jesus deals with the issue in the germinal stage. Adultery hasn't yet happened, but the seeds are there. Lust is best defined as looking with a desire to conquer or possess. It does not mean appreciating beauty. It is normal for us to admire people of the opposite sex who are beautiful. Sin comes in when that admiration is twisted into something other than what God desires.



Jesus prescribes radical action for dealing with lust. Gouging out an eye and cutting off a hand could not be described as anything less than radical. Jesus tells us we need to take radical action to remove the cause of temptation. With the Internet, cable and satellite TV, we have access to temptation at our fingertips. For some, action as radical as doing away with Internet or cable at the house might be necessary. For others, software for which only our spouses have the password might be necessary. The point Jesus makes here is this: do what is necessary to remove the temptation.



Jesus is fully aware of the power of this temptation. He places the responsibility squarely on the man's shoulders. In that culture, women usually were blamed for lustful relationships. Not much has changed in our day. The women still tend to take the brunt of the blame. Jesus placed responsibility for their actions, habits and practices squarely on the shoulders of the men. Men in particular need to step up and take the responsibility to change those actions which lead to lust.



If we have not experienced personally the difficulty of divorce, then we certainly have seen it in the lives of our friends and family members. It is no different now than it was then, we still are looking for ways to justify divorce. Jesus' emphasis was different; it focused on how we can reconcile broken relationships rather than looking for ways out. This does not mean there are not reasons to legitimately divorce; it does mean we first seek reconciliation and restoration. Jesus deals with this in greater detail in Matthew 19:3-9. It is a good idea to consult this text in conjunction with Jesus' teaching in the Sermon on the Mount.





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Teenage Pregnacy: Right or Wrong? Love or Lust?

Teenage Pregnancy is all around these days. Some big quetions are: Are they [the teenagers] Easy? Was it free will? Was it rape? Was it love? Was it forced? Is it right?

I don't know about anyone else, but these are just a few of the questions that buzz my brain constantly lately. My oppinions are as follows:

Don't always call the mothers-to-be easy until you know what really happened. They could very well be, but they could also be forced, by the "father" (aka SPERM DONOR), their parents, friends. They could've been threatened, beaten or raped. IT IS NOT ALWAYS BECAUSE THE GIRLS ARE EASY!

Now the bigger question: Right or Wrong. A lot of older people may think its wrong, because of the day and age. I know my grandmother thought so, at first. Until my cousin (who is 16) got pregnant. We changed her thinking. When my grandmother was 16, she was married. Had her first child (my father) at 18, and my aunt at 20. So my cousin isn't necessarily in the wrong. When the older generation was younger, they were getting married at 13, 14, 15. Having babies that early. Why do they think its wrong? If they could find love at that age, why can't we? I know times may have been a little different, like early deaths and all, but how about now-adays. At least if we get married at the same ages, we could possibly enjoy as much time with our spouses.

I'm just tired of teenage pregnancy coming out as a bad thing. It's not ALWAYS bad.

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You have a great point.
Submitted by Meaghan Kochheiser on Thu, 10/11/2007 - 12:03pm.
You have a great point. People are too quick to jump to the "she's a whore" conclusion, and that's not always the case.

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Exaclty my point
Submitted by FS_college_kid2007 on Thu, 10/11/2007 - 12:06pm.
I know for a fact that my cousin was forced, and then she left the guy, Found out she was pregnant and now they are back together, even though she doesn't want to be. She needs the money and support

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I tend to think it's more
Submitted by truelife90 on Thu, 10/11/2007 - 12:38pm.
I tend to think it's more about lust than love unless the two people agree to have a child. That's why people would prefer their kids after sex after they are married. The idea of us having sex to lust is just absurd to older generations. They programmed us what is right, what is wrong, when to do it, and when not to do it. Parents themselves probably made a lot of mistakes so they don't want to see their kids follow the same path. Thus, they avoid talking about it openly. My parents don't talk about it much. I was so naive about the whole sex topic. But school and friends taught me a lot. So, I never really did it with anyone. I'm waiting for someone to come along...and it doesn't necessary mean I will only have sex when I get married. What if I'll never get married? OH Gosh, I'll die as a virgin.


young and pregnant

Submitted by jayala20 on Thu, 10/11/2007 - 12:47pm.
i do not agree with you. how can you think that at 15, 16 or whatever is ok to have a baby! it's not. especially in this world today it is even worse. Years ago things were different and back then having kids at that age was ok and nothing else to do, but now we know we need education and more. I think and beleive that eveyone should have at least somewhat of a college education when they have kids but if it was becasue of a rape or something than i would understand on having a baby. but there are also adoptions options that one can do.

For spies, 'Lust' isn't everything ;Lust caution

Not just to embody but to act the throes of passion, with every inch of flesh exposed - that's what first-time movie actress Tang Wei does to the hilt, and way beyond the hilt, in Lust, Caution, Ang Lee's otherwise ponderous tale of intrigue in Japanese-controlled Shanghai during the Second World War.

Tang Wei brings a terrible and awe-inspiring purity to an impure character: the key performer in a patriotic theater cell that becomes an assassination unit for the Chinese Resistance. At its best, the film presents a nightmare case of a performer getting lost in her role. The target of her seduction, a married collaborator and secret service chief played by Tony Leung, takes charge of their sexual relationship in a repulsive rape.

But Tang Wei holds you, first with her character's willingness to eroticize anything, even rape, for the sake of her cause, and then with her reluctant but real lust. As this dangerous liaison expands, her bed becomes an arena for extreme variations on conquest, fear, desire, even love.
For about a quarter of an hour of this unendurably long movie, she and Leung stir up an amorous whirlpool. In the film's one minute of verbal brilliance, she pleads for help from her Resistance boss:

"He not only gets inside me, but he worms his way into my heart," she says with a bloodcurdling urgency. "I take him in like a slave. I play my part loyally, so I too can get inside him. And every time he hurts me until I bleed and scream ... before he feels alive. In the dark, only he knows it's all true. That's why I can torture him until he can't take it any longer, and I will keep going until I can't go anymore."

The rest of the film is so ceremonious and dull, it's as if Lee emerged from these sessions similarly spent. Expanding on Eileen Chang's 48-page short story of the same name, Lee wants to craft a variation on Hitchcock's great Notorious - an NC-17, morally ambiguous version in which there is no substitute for Cary Grant, and Ingrid Bergman's shady lady actually falls in love with Claude Rains' Nazi.

But Lee, always a plodder, lets the tension shrivel and the ardor go slack. His big ideas, like staging a horrendously clumsy fight to the death to reveal the horror of all violence, are old and lame - though to be fair, moviegoers have such short memories that they hailed David Cronenberg for similar would-be feats in Eastern Promises. (They all derive from a scene in Hitchcock's otherwise atrocious Torn Curtain.) Lee ultimately tenderizes and sentimentalizes the central relationship with a tender song. And he fails to make the political goals of the woman's cadre cogent and compelling - a disaster for a story in which, as Chang's translator, Julia Lovell, notes, "irrational emotional reality" wins out over "tidy political abstraction." In Lee's Lust, Caution, that's a Pyrrhic victory.

Monday, October 8, 2007

Lust free Living

Lust Free Living is a small-group curriculum for Christian men and women who struggle with lust and sexual issues. It was developed as a short, easy to read, blunt, honest and direct way for Christian men and women to talk about sexual issues. It is Biblically sound and walks men through actual, solid, concrete help. A Coaching Guide with videos for each chapter is available to set the tone for maximum effectiveness.

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LUST is the missing piece of the puzzle.

When you have almost finished the puzzle, you discover that there is one small, lousy piece missing. This is the moment we want to capture, because this is the moment something basic is going to happen. Whether you start searching until you find the missing piece, or you throw away the puzzle altogether. Both options are a thousand times more interesting than the moment the puzzle is finished, because when that happens, there is nothing more. However, what you will remember ­ the thing that indelibly stays with you ­ is that puzzle with the hole: the part asking for interpretation.



Whenever, or whatever, we were designing, we kept coming across a term that was distilled from the large quantities of data we always use as our idea/inspiration base. That term was LUST.
LUST is a term that cannot be clearly defined. LUST concerns the difference between RATIO and COINCIDENCE, between vision and urge. From the multiplication of these terms, designs emerge that have often an autonomous character, yet almost always have a relation with previous LUST designs. LUST designs & philosophy do not emerge from style but from interpretation and conceptualization of the assignment. We are mainly interested in CONTEXT and ASSOCIATION.

here it offers you a peek into our world called LUST. We have given this world a tangiable structure that should challenge, as well as, guide you through all the layers of our thought processes. We have built in many hidden or random links and elements into this world, so be curious and explore your way through it! No one interpretation of LUST is correct. Your conclusion is just as valid as ours. LUST is, after all, personal. Everybody carries their own baggage with them. We respect your baggage, but at the same time would like to show you ours. We want to try to push you, encourage you to participate in this dialog until the transformation takes place towards personal insight, personal investigation, and personal conclusions within LUST.

After all, it's all about exhalting DEGRADATION, or, the closer you get to the truth, the uglier things will be. In the end, there is only a black square.

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The sin of LUST

Lust Sinopsis

What it is: Lust is an inordinate craving for the pleasures of the body.

Why you do it: Oh, please.

Your punishment in Hell will be: You'll be smothered in fire and brimstone. Not kisses.

Associated symbols & suchlike: Lust is linked with the cow and the color blue
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References

Medieval theologian Thomas Aquinas said of Lust:
...wherever there occurs a special kind of deformity whereby the venereal act is rendered unbecoming, there is a determinate species of lust. This may occur in two ways: First, through being contrary to right reason, and this is common to all lustful vices; secondly, because, in addition, it is contrary to the natural order of the venereal act as becoming to the human race: and this is called "the unnatural vice." This may happen in several ways. First, by procuring pollution, without any copulation, for the sake of venereal pleasure: this pertains to the sin of "uncleanness" which some call "effeminacy." Secondly, by copulation with a thing of undue species, and this is called "bestiality." Thirdly, by copulation with an undue sex, male with male, or female with female, as the Apostle states (Rm. 1:27): and this is called the "vice of sodomy." Fourthly, by not observing the natural manner of copulation, either as to undue means, or as to other monstrous and bestial manners of copulation.

The Travelers' Guide to Hell says
Lust is ruled by the celestial sign of Venus. Incidentally, this is the first book to mention the Seven Deadly Sins Homepage. I urge you to buy several copies and distribute them to all your friends. I would kiss both authors on the mouth if they would have me.


We at the Seven Deadly Sins Homepage care about you. So if you think you might be tempted to engage in a monstrous and/or bestial manner of copulation, or if you find yourself procuring some pollution without any copulation, thereby rendering yourself effeminate (as "unclean" is no longer considered an appropriate term), get help.

Take the Lust Test to determine your temptability. Carefully follow the instructions to bring some healing to your perverse soul. If you really try, maybe you can make it into the upcoming "Souls Saved By this Site" feature

List of Sin
Pride is excessive belief in one's own abilities, that interferes with the individual's recognition of the grace of God. It has been called the sin from which all others arise. Pride is also known as Vanity.

Envy is the desire for others' traits, status, abilities, or situation.

Gluttony is an inordinate desire to consume more than that which one requires.

Lust is an inordinate craving for the pleasures of the body.

Anger is manifested in the individual who spurns love and opts instead for fury. It is also known as Wrath.

Greed is the desire for material wealth or gain, ignoring the realm of the spiritual. It is also called Avarice or Covetousness.

Sloth is the avoidance of physical or spiritual work.

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Sunday, October 7, 2007

Am I in Love?

How to Know if You're Really in Love
It is a very common question, "How can I tell I'm in love?", but it is not an easy question to answer. What feels like love to one person may be nothing more than attraction to another. Some people fall in and out of love quickly and often while others are never really in love as much as they are in lust. This can get confusing when you are a teen because romantic love is a relatively new concept for you and you don't know what to expect. You are overwhelmed with all sorts of new feelings and social pressures. They are confusing. What is love? What makes you want a romantic relationship with one person and not another? How does your heart choose a partner? Why does love end? These questions can't be easily answered.
One of the most confusing quasi-love feelings is lust. Lust is a very powerful, very intense feeling of physical attraction toward another person. Lust is mainly sexual in nature - the attraction is superficial based on instant chemistry rather than genuine caring. Usually we lust after people we do not know well, people we still feel comfortable fantasizing about. It is very common for people to confuse lust for love. But why? What is it about lust and love that make them so easy to mix up? If lust is all about sex, how can a relationship without sex be about lust? Teens struggle with this because they see lust in the Biblical sense, but lust isn't that sinister. Lust is about physical attraction and acting ONLY on physical attraction. Love is about much more than that. Yet many teens (and to be fair, many adults) confuse an intense attraction for some sort if divine love. For teens, since feelings of attraction are still new and since pop-culture sells sex and love as one package, it is very easy to get the two mixed up.

Lust is clearly not love. Love is based on more than just physical attraction. Sure, attraction is a factor, but love goes deeper than that. Love is based on caring, friendship, commitment and trust. When you are in love it is as if you have your best most trusted friend at your side AND you feel physically attracted to them. It is the best of both worlds! Love is a shared feeling between two people who have a vested interest in one anothers happiness. Love is not about jealousy. It is not about conflict. It is not about testing. Love is a positive feeling. If it is tainted by mistrust, jealousy, insecurity or spitefulness it is not really love but merely a pale copy. Love is the total surrender of your heart to another person with the security of knowing they will treat it better than you will. Love should feel good. It should not feel bad. Love should make you want to be a better person, it should not lead you to do something self destructive. Love is not demanding of your spirit but lifts it and makes it glow. Love is a good thing. Anything less is lust, deep friendship or attraction. So the sappiness aside, the question remains, how can you tell you are in love?

There is no easy way to find the truth behind your feelings or the feelings of another person but there are some tell-tale signs that love is blooming (or growing deeper). If you agree with 7 of the following 9 statements you are probably in love.

You know, because you have been told by your significant other, that your deep feelings are returned in kind.
The object of your affections makes you feel special and good about yourself.
If/when you feel jealous it is always fleeting; you trust your partner not to betray you or hurt your relationship.
Nothing makes you feel as serene as when you and your partner are together.
When you fight with your partner you usually make up within a few hours and you always agree that nothing is more important than you both being able to express your true feelings (even if they sometimes cause conflict).
Your partner never asks you to choose between him/her and your loyalties to your family and friends - if you do choose him/her over them you always have a good reason and it is always YOUR decision, and your decision alone.
Neither you or your partner feel the need to test the other's loyalties or feelings.
You are more yourself when with your partner than you are with anybody else.
If sex is part of your relationship it is by mutual desire and agreement without the slightest hint of commitment testing or persuasion.

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Throwing 'Lust, Caution' to the wind

TORONTO - From its mysteriously inverted title to its twisty spy movie plot, "Lust, Caution" evokes the tensions that simmered just beneath the surface of Shanghai during the Japanese occupation in World War II.

But for Ang Lee, the Chinese-born director whose adaptation of a story about love between two men brought his first Oscar last year for "Brokeback Mountain," this latest attempt to show love as an act of fateful self-deception was even more daring. Based on Eileen Chang's short story, the film, which opens Friday, has less to do with the takeover of Shanghai than the forcible occupation of the human heart.

Before he read Chang's story, Lee had never encountered a character like Wong Chia Chi - the mahjong Mata Hari played in the film by newcomer Tang Wei - in Chinese literature.

"It has a lot to do with a woman's sexuality, their psychology, what they get from sex," Lee said during an interview at the recent Toronto International Film Festival, where "Lust, Caution" had its North American premiere. "So it was very shocking. At the same time, she's evoking fearful thoughts and feelings about occupying, and about being occupied. Particularly the latter, about being occupied in the man-woman relationship."

A member of her university's drama society, Wong is drawn into a plot to assassinate one of the leaders of the collaborationist government working with the Japanese. She is cast by her co-conspirators in the role of Mrs. Mak, who plays
mahjong and gossips with the wives of the traitorous regime's leaders.
Wong befriends the doyenne of this brat pack (Joan Chen) so that she can seduce the woman's husband, the treacherous Mr. Yee (Hong Kong star Tony Leung), director of the government's feared intelligence service.

"She's basically a good girl playing bad girls, and finding her power there," Lee says. "And the thing that moved me tremendously is that I totally identified with the girl, who gets to touch her true self by playing a part. Like her, I started on the stage, and it changed my life. It told me that there is real life, and there is the true life, that's somewhere else, in the opposite direction."

After considering as many as 10,000 applicants for the part, Lee was both excited and terrified when he realized that he had found the perfect actress to play Wong in Tang, who had never been in a feature film before, much less carried one.

"I believed in her because, in real life, she seemed like a person from my parents' generation," Lee says. "I felt she can be a spokesman for me."

Tang, then 26 and a recent finalist in Beijing's Miss Universe pageant, auditioned for the role without knowing much about Lee's plan to make the love scenes so intense - and sexually explicit - that the movie would eventually be released with an NC-17 rating. In that way, Tang and Ang were entering into a similarly secretive sort of relationship as Wong and Yee.

"That's me," Lee says. "I never tell."

"At the last audition, Ang told me something about love scenes," Tang said at the Toronto festival, sometimes speaking in English, sometimes through an interpreter. "But he didn't tell me a lot, just that they would be a bit more daring. No details."

As it became increasingly apparent that she and Leung would be called upon to shed their inhibitions and their clothes for the strenuous lovemaking that dominates the final third of the film, Tang says she simply left her body behind and occupied the character's. "From the very beginning, I removed myself," she says. "I tried to forget Tang Wei. Tried to forget everything, and just enter the character.

"Of course, I felt a little nervous at the beginning," she adds. "I'm a girl, and I'm not used to this. It was the first time I did a play like this. But when the camera was rolling, I am the girl. I just live the girl's life."

The connection between the director and the ingenue Tang was portraying was so close that if the actress' concentration wavered for even an instant, he seemed to feel it before she did.

"Sometimes when all he could see was my back," she recalls, "if I'm not completely in the character, Ang would say, 'You're not in Wong now.' And if I'm in the character, whatever I do, Ang always says it's right."

Lee brought another young Chinese actress to prominence in the West when he cast Zhang Ziyi as one of the leads in "Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon," his last Chinese-language film before "Lust, Caution." But the gamble is greater with Tang.

"She has to carry the movie," Lee says, "so I was more intense with her. When we approached the first day of shooting, I was very nervous."

Confident that he has made the movie he wanted, he was pleased when Focus Features never asked him to trim the film to get a less restrictive rating. Or to satisfy some early critics who have suggested the movie is too long. When Lee accepted the Venice Film Festival's award for best picture, the Golden Lion, he was booed in the press room.

"Believe me, I tried to make it shorter," he says. "But it's a Chinese film. I just have to do what feels right. American audiences have been trained by the movies to get restless if something doesn't happen every nine minutes. What's the hurry? It frustrates me a lot."

With a running time of more than 2 1/2 hours, subtitles, a period drama and lots of kinky sex, "Lust" throws caution to the wind. Now Lee is waiting to see if the critics throw him to the wolves.

The Brain in Love and Lust

In a study published in 2002, anthropologist Helen Fisher PhD of Rutgers University and a multi-disciplinary team of experts recruited 40 young people madly in love - half with love returned, the other half with love rejected - and put them into an MRI with a photo of their sweetheart and one of an acquaintance. Each subject looked at the sweetheart photo for 30 seconds, then - after a diversion task - at the acquaintance photo for another 30 seconds.. They switched back and forth for 12 minutes.

The result was a revealing photo album of the brain in love. Think like a brain scientist and you too would be excited by activity in the right ventral tegmental area. This is the part of the brain where dopamine cells project into other areas of the brain, including the posterior dorsal caudate and its tail, both which are central to the brain’s system for reward and motivation. The sweetheart photos, but not the acquaintance photos, were the cause. In addition, several parts of the prefrontal cortex that are highly wired in the dopamine pathways were mobilized, while the amygdala, associated with fear, was temporarily mothballed.

When Love Blossoms
Romantic love, Dr Fisher explained in a lecture at the 2004 American Psychiatric Association’s annual meeting, is not an emotion. Rather, it’s "a motivation system, it’s a drive, it’s part of the reward system of the brain." It’s a need that compels the lover to seek a specific mating partner. Then the brain links this drive to all kinds of specific emotions depending on how the relationship is going. All the while, she went on to say, the prefrontal cortex is assembling data, putting information into patterns, making strategies, and monitoring the progress toward "life’s greatest prize."

Love also hurts. Dr Fisher cited one recent study where 40 percent of people who had been dumped by their partner in the previous eight weeks experienced clinical depression and 12 percent severe depression. It is estimated that 50 to 70 percent of female homicides are committed by lovers and spouses. Annually one million women and 400,000 men are stalked.

Dr Fisher divides love into three categories involving different brain systems: 1) Lust (the craving for sexual gratification), driven by androgens and estrogens; 2) Attraction (or romantic or passionate love, characterized by euphoria when things are going well, terrible mood swings when they’re not, focused attention, obsessive thinking, and intense craving for the individual), driven by high dopamine and norepinephrine levels and low serotonin; and 3) Attachment (the sense of calm, peace, and stability one feels with a long-term partner) driven by the hormones oxytocin and vasopressin.

"I think the sex drive evolved to get you out there to get looking for anything at all," she told her audience. Romantic love, she thinks, developed to focus one’s mating energy on just one individual while attachment works to tolerate this individual long enough to raise children as a team.

These systems are also connected. "Don’t copulate with people you don’t want to fall in love with," she half-jokingly tells her students, "because indeed you may do just that." Testosterone can kickstart the two love neurotransmitters while an orgasm can elevate the attachment hormones. But the brain systems remained separate units, probably to allow each partner to cheat on the other. This would have enhanced Alley Oop’s chances of transmitting his genes. A philandering Clan of the Cave Bear babe, meanwhile, would have had an insurance policy had her main squeeze ended up as a baby mastodon’s throw toy.

Romantic love, Dr Fisher believes, is a stronger craving than sex. People who don’t get sex don’t kill themselves, she said. On the other hand, it is not adaptive to be romantically in love for 20 years. "First of all," she confided, "we would all die of sexual exhaustion." Not surprisingly, the subjects in her study who had been in love the longest (17 months) displayed markers in the brain indicating the beginnings of "the satiation response."

In a related undertaking, Dr Fisher found evidence that romantic love exists in 150 societies, even though it is discouraged in many of them. But with many women from these countries now entering the workforce and acquiring a sense of independence - together with medical science keeping us relatively younger longer - we can expect to see romantic love on the rise worldwide, she predicted..

Bring it on.

When Love Fades
High levels of oxytocin and vasopressin may interfere with dopamine and norepinephrine pathways, Dr Fisher explained in the same talk, which may explain why attachment grows as mad passionate love fades. The antidote may be doing novel things together to goose the two love neurotransmitters.

Meanwhile, elevated testosterone can suppress oxytocin and vasopressin. There is good evidence, Dr Fisher said, that men with higher testosterone levels tend to marry less often, be more abusive in their marriage, and divorce more regularly. The reverse can also be true. If a man holds a baby, levels of testosterone go down, perhaps in part because of oxytocin and vasopressin going up.

In a 54-item questionnaire Dr Fisher prepared for 430 Americans and 420 Japanese, 95 percent responded yes to the question, "Have you ever been dumped by someone you really love?" An equal number also dumped someone who really loved them. Getting dumped makes you love the person harder, Dr Fisher noted, a term she calls "frustration attraction."

Psychologists also refer to "abandonment rage" and "frustration depression," which may paradoxically work to hasten the relationship’s end. Then comes resignation and despair, where the brain’s reward system begins to realize the you are never going to get what you want. Despair may seem counterproductive, but it is in essence "a failure of denial" that allows us to see the world for what it is and sets us on the road to finding a more suitable partner.

Gender Differences

Although the brain images of the men and women in Dr Fisher’s study were basically the same, she and her colleagues did find activity in men in a region of the parietal of the temporal lobe associated with the integration of visual stimuli. Ninety percent of pornography is for men while women spend their lives trying to look good for them, Dr Fisher explained. The Darwinian explanation is that the studs of Leakey Land picked their partners by sizing them up visually.

In women, there was more activity in regions associated with memory recall. From an evolutionary perspective, looks probably weren’t enough to determine if a prospective mate would be a good provider and protector. The belle of the Great Rift Valley needed to remember what that suave suitor with the sexy brow ridge grunted yesterday and promised two months ago.

Love at Risk
At a different APA forum, "Sex, Sexuality, and Serotonin," Dr Fisher warned that antidepressants may jeopardize romantic love. As well as high dopamine and norepinephrine, she said, romantic love is characterized by low serotonin. Low serotonin would explain the obsessive thinking attached to romantic love. In her MRI study, her subjects reported that they thought about their loved one 95 percent of the day and couldn’t stop thinking about them. This kind of obsessive thinking is comparable to OCD, she said, also characterized by low serotonin.

Serotonin-enhancing antidepressants, she said, blunt the emotions, including the elation of romance, and suppress obsessive thinking, a critical component of romance. "When you inhibit this brain system," she warned, "you can inhibit your patient’s well-being and possibly their genetic future."

These antidepressants also inhibit orgasm, clitoral stimulation, penile erection ("the entertainment system, in my business"), and deposit of seminal fluid. From an anthropological perspective, a woman who can’t get an orgasm may fail to distinguish Mr Right from Mr Wrong. As one woman on an SSRI confided to her: "I thought I no longer loved my husband." In a study in press, women on SSRIs rated male faces as more unattractive, a process she calls "courtship blunting."

Seminal fluid contains dopamine and norepinephrine, oxytocin and vasopressin, testosterone and estrogen, and FSH and LH. Without an orgasm, said Dr Fisher, men lose the ability to send courtship signals. Said one man, who lost his motivation and self esteem as a result, "I just stopped dating."

Ironically, because antidepressants inhibit depression, patients may lose their ability to send an honest clear signal for social support and (for those with mild depression) lose the necessary insight to make hard decisions (the failure of denial factor).

Dr Fisher said she didn’t want psychiatrists to stop prescribing serotonin-enhancing antidepressants for their patients, but did stress the need to take the love-relationship picture into account.

When Sex Goes Right
At the same symposium, Anita Clayton MD of the University of Virginia related what goes on molecularly during arousal and orgasm: Testosterone drives sexual activity in men. Testosterone also affects women, plus estrogen and progesterone, associated with permissivity and receptivity, respectively. These three hormones help maintain genital structure and function. Dopamine is tied into sexual desire while norepinephrine is related to subjective excitement. During orgasm, oxytocin levels rise.

When Sex Goes Wrong
At the same symposium, Dr Clayton mentioned that serotonin can dampen sexual desire and excitement. It can also deaden sensation, leading to vasocongestion ("blue balls"). Prolactin can have a negative impact on sexual excitement.

Philip Muskin MD of Columbia University cited these statistics:

Married couples report having sex 68.5 times a year (1.3 times a week) according to a 2002 University of Chicago National Opinion Research Center Report. According to a 2003 cover story in Newsweek, 15 to 20 percent of couples have sex less than 10 times a year, regarded as a sexless marriage.
Various studies give the following breakdown for incidence of sexual disorders: Hypoactive sexual desire (27-34 percent women, 13-17 percent men); Sexual arousal disorder (11-27 percent women); Erectile disorders (eight-38 percent men); Orgasmic disorders (15-28 percent women); Premature ejaculation (25-32 percent men); Pain during intercourse (eight-23 percent women).
Dr Clayton cited her 2001 study that found that 37 percent of men taking antidepressants experienced sexual dysfunction. Paxil was the highest at more than 40 percent and Wellbutrin the lowest at about 20 percent. Remeron was surprisingly at the high end of the scale.

Only 14.2 percent of patients spontaneously report antidepressant induced sexual dysfunction to their physicians, according to a 1997 study vs 58.1 percent responding to a questionnaire.

Antipsychotics pose their own set of problems. A 2003 study by Knegtering et al reports that 60 percent of Risperdal patients reported sexual side effects vs about 27 percent for Zyprexa and about 44 percent for old generation antipsychotics.

Risk factors for sexual dysfunction include being at least 50 years old, married, less than college education, not employed full time, tobacco use, higher doses of antidepressants, concomitant meds, co-occurring ills known to cause sexual dysfunction, prior history of antidepressant-induced sexual dysfunction, history of little or no sexual enjoyment, and regarding sexual functioning as not or somewhat important.

According to data from the 1992 National Health and Social Life Survey, 43 percent of women and 30 percent of men have a sexual complaint (a sexual complaint is not of the same magnitude as sexual dysfunction or sexual disorder). In patients with depression, that figure is 70 to 80 percent. Depression itself rarely causes sexual dysfunction, Dr Muskin explained. Untreated depression, however, often causes a lack of interest in sex, and disrupts intimacy.

Dr Muskin says doctors must encourage their patients to accept the reality that getting well is more important than sexual dysfunction. Patients and their partners, he said, may need to reconfigure how they have sex. Arousal may need to be at a higher pitch before intercourse, and orgasm need not be linked to the act.

But patients may want to try these antidotes first, cited by Dr Clayton: Wellbutrin, Viagra (for men), and Buspar (for women), all supported by studies. Other possibilities include hormones (testosterone, estrogen), yohimbine, amantadine, and low dose psychostimulants.

At another APA forum, WebMD reported on a presentation by Richard Brown MD of Columbia University, who noted that although Viagra may improve erection, it doesn't help much with libido and orgasm. The following natural treatments, he said, show promise: Rhodiola (an arctic plant that works for both men and women, may work on dopamine, helps libido and boosts energy); Ginko biloba (for impotence in men and maintains erection); Gingseng (appears to work on dopamine, so woman can benefit too); Maca (a Peruvian root that "can have powerful effects on desire, erections, and orgasms"); Horny goat weed (forgive the term, little data).

Gay and Lesbian Sex

At the same symposium, Serena Volpp MD, MPH of New York University discussed gay and lesbian sex. According to 1994 NHSL Survey figures, nine percent of women and 10 percent of men reported homosexual behavior, desire, or identity. One-third of those who had same sex partners in the past year did not consider themselves homosexual. Fifty percent of gay men and 75 percent of lesbians have had intercourse with the opposite sex. According to figures from a 1983 book by Blumstein and Schwartz, 67 percent of gay male couples have sex at least three times a week in the first two years of marriage compared to 61 percent of sexual couples and 33 percent lesbian couples. Various authorities estimate that gay men have had somewhat less than 50 sexual partners while the figure was less than 10 for lesbians. NHSL Survey data indicates that men have six long-term sexual partners while women have two

Dr Volpp stressed that gay and lesbian sexual practices are essentially the same as for heterosexuals, with the same body parts in play and the goals of achieving a high degree of intimacy and sexual release or orgasm. A 1991 study by Roesser found that gay males had anal intercourse in one-third of their encounters. Oral sex and mutual masturbation made up the other two-thirds. Lesbians engaged in kissing, petting, mutual genital contact, oral-genital contact, body contact, and object-genital insertion.

Unfortunately, owing to the effectiveness of new medications, the younger generation is more complacent about safe sex. New HIV infections among gay men went up 17 percent between 1999 and 2002.

Better Than Cheesecake

"For many of us, sexual orgasm, accomplished within a love relationship, is one of the all-time highs. And sex, like love, can be accompanied by a sense of merger and transcendence." Ethel Peterson MD of Columbia University, at the same APA symposium.

Love Potion Number 32
A Rockefeller University press release dated Feb 15, 2000 began:

"Valentine's Day cards usually depict Cupid's dart as the messenger of love. New scientific research, however, shows that a key messenger molecule, rather than Cupid's dart, is responsible for female sexual receptivity - at least in rats and mice.

"Scientists at New York's Rockefeller University and Houston's Baylor College of Medicine have found that a protein called DARPP-32 is the essential ingredient in the brain pathway that makes female mice and rats sexually receptive. The study is reported in the Feb. 11 issue of Science."

The title for the Science article was a far less suggestive: "Requirement for DARPP-32 in Progesterone-Facilitated Sexual Receptivity in Female Rats and Mice."

When 2000 Nobel Laureate Paul Greengard PhD brought this up at a lecture at the APA’s 2004 annual meeting, the audience burst out into appreciative laughter. Up until this time, Dr Greengard had been giving the equivalent of a master’s class on the fine points of brain science, with a focus on how DARPP-32 acts as a virtual Grand Central Station for routing and rerouting chemical impulses along an interlocking network of molecular signaling pathways inside the neuron.

Dr Greengard’s pioneering work into DARPP-32 has provided new insights into schizophrenia and drug use. Mice with no DARPP-32, for example no longer respond to recreational drugs. This research may have helped Dr Greengard win a Nobel Prize, but it was his findings into female sexual receptivity that got him in the papers. Without DARPP-32, signals that would normally get sent to dopamine and estrogen and progesterone don’t get sent.

Dr Greengard amused his audience with this reading from one media account: "But researchers say the protein will not be available in drug form for five years."

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Lust


What is lust??
Lust is everything,
I will say lust is the power of the generative world.
Lust is any intense desire or craving for self gratification. Lust can mean strictly sexual lust, although it is also common to speak of a "lust for life", "lust for blood (bloodlust for short)", or a "lust for power" or other goals. The Greek word which translates as lust is epithymia (επιθυμια), which also is translated into English as "to covet
Etymology
The word is derived from the Old English term for desire, and ultimately from a Germanic which also originated High German lust ('wish, desire'). In German, the word Lust denotes simply "desire".

Obsolete uses include lust in the sense of pleasure, or relish.


Lust in the context of religion

Christianity—General
Catholic tradition considers lust to be one of the main sins or vices.


Christianity—Roman Catholicism

Roman Catholic Church teaches that lust is one of the seven capital vices, popularly known as the seven deadly sins. A vice, according to this tradition, is a "habit inclining one to sin" [1]. The specific sins to which lust may lead are fornication, adultery, incest, criminal assault, abduction, sodomy, rape, and others. [2]. However, "Such guilt as [one] may have contracted in any case is charged directly to the sinful act, not to the vice;" [3] in other words, it is the specific sins, and not the vice itself, which deprive one's soul of sanctifying grace and make one deserving of God's punishment.

Punishment in the afterlife
According to some Christian sources [4], reprobates whose chief unforgiven sin is lust are punished in Hell by being "smothered in fire and brimstone." However, while most Christian traditions agree that at some point after death the damned individuals find themselves in a hell where they suffer punishment for their sins, most traditions also agree that one can only speculate regarding the precise nature of any punishment above and beyond the principal torment, which comes simply from being totally separated from God.


Repentance in Purgatory

According to The Divine Comedy, penance who are guilty of lust cleanse their soul of the sin by walking through flames, thereby purging their minds of all lustful thoughts.